What happens when life, crisis, community & spirituality all merge?

Is it just me or is life on a tilt-a-whirl ride these days?

​The uncertainty and feeling of standing on ground that shifts and disappears has me reflecting. When was the last time I felt like this? Have you been wondering the same thing? Are you sifting through your life files seeing if you can relate and more importantly are you finding solutions to deal with all this?

Well as a matter of fact I can place a specific event that occured in my past that felt as uncertain and scary as the current situation which is effecting the planet.

I wrote this 5 years ago in preparation for an event I was speaking at. 

​And it began like this...

Take a deep breath and close your eyes and imagine what does it look like to: 

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• ~ have a spouse loose a job that precipitates a decision to move away,
• ~ downsize a home of 30 years,
• ~ prepare that home for sale by yourself,
• ~ euthanize 2 beloved pets,
• ~ sell your home to find out you have nowhere to move to,
• ~ have your husband come through surgery successfully to almost die then go through another surgery 1 week later,
• ~ have all of these experiences to take place in a span of 10 weeks

I imagine you can’t really understand of what that totally feels like.  But I can assure you it can be filled with fear, anxiety, anger, love, joy, apprehension, appreciation and all the spectrum in between. 

Reading this now in the current global environment where many people are experiencing job loss, health crisis, communities forever changed it requires a rewrite! 

The rewrite is not can you imagine, I know you not only imagine it but can totally relate to the intensity of it.

What remains the same is the question I asked. 

What does a person do with all of this?

The answer -  you reach out and grab a hand, you dig deep into your toolbox of life skills and start using them, you pray and meditate for guidance and you see a physical strength emerge that you did not know you had.

Through Soul Genesis™ I teach people about gateways. These are the access points in which our soul takes the learnings and the experiences and integrates them into your life and this propels the soul into a new level of awareness. 

One of these gateways is called co-regulatory community. Every person will access this gateway at some point and the summer of 2015 I was at that doorway. 

My movement towards the gateway started with a connection and invitation to a wholistic community. At a sharing circle each person told their story on how they chose the work they do and the painful life events that propelled many of them into it. I marvelled at the strength and courage they shared. Little did I know that in a few short weeks I would need this reminder that everyday people can do extraordinary actions and it is in each one of us. 

My husband and I went from a decision to downsize and move across our country, to having experiencing our exciting plan placed on hold. In a short week a health concern of a chronic injured ankle went to an infection to organ failure ending in an partial amputation of a leg.

Just as you may be concerned with your current situation and looking for answers, I was asking the question “what did that mean to my life, and to my dream of moving and eventually retiring in British Columbia?” “What will my life look like after this is all over?”

I was asking these questions while preparing our house for sale and all the tasks required. Of course now I had the added anxiety of my husbands surgery and the following rehabilitation while not really knowing if our move would happen. 

More answers were found by using my life tools. 

I started every day with meditation and prayer asking for guidance to the right next step. Every evening my friend would call to debrief about the day and see how I was coping. I was able to vent my feelings, discuss my fears and celebrate the successes.

My wholistic community became another resource that extended to my family as well. I received a notice that my community was praying and sending healing energy for my husband as he was prepared for surgery. As I read the email to my hubby I looked up to see he was weeping. “Wow”, he said “they don’t even know me”. “No” I reply “but they know me and so you are part of that community”. Later that night as 1/2 dozen nurses frantically worked on him and as he slipped closer to heavens gate I truly believe it was the prayers and healing that kept him tethered to me and to this planet. Those cords of love showed he did not have to leave. This was a wonderful representation of a co-regulatory community that adjusts and modulates to support the whole.

Today the planet is focusing on social cohesion as we navigate a pandemic. We are self distancing while trying to maintain a normalcy of our old paradigms. We are learning quickly in a very short period of time what our priorities truly are and we are seeing the best of humanity while stepping out of the shadow aspects of ourselves.

Lately I have been reflecting on that past 10 week experience while I acknowledge that during this pandemic I can accept the faith, hope and inspiration which was learned at the gateway of co-regulatory community during that period.

Some of the aspects to this gateway are:

• learning to feel your interconnectedness instead of numbing it.
• allowing unhealed emotions to be healed by your chosen community.
• seeing past the illusions of world systems and gaining a bigger perspective and developing independent thoughts.
• developing self sufficiency and see that you have what you need to move through this situation.
• you see that others are accessing this doorway with you and in fact it is happening on a global level
• you are able to recognize that self acceptance is the greatest healing for yourself and others around you.

Just as I did back then, I look around today and know that this experience is not to be wasted. That it has an important value.  Each one of us live our lives in the day to day world and not give a thought to what if... 

I was one of those people thinking that unemployment rates did not touch me as my husband had an amazing career as he travelled the world and actually enjoyed getting up to go to work everyday. I never noticed the little war amps tags that for many years were part of my key chain. The purchase of that tag provided a service we would access to purchase the $8500.00 leg that would give my husband the freedom to walk and drive again. 

I do reflect on the past and as they say hindsight. It is not about dwelling on the what if’s it is on celebrating the I am. I acknowledge that my journey of spiritual awareness and self discovery led me to a community. A place were I actively engaged in clearing past traumas, healing core wounds, blasting out the limiting decisions and beliefs that was regulated and moderated by a group of caring people.

Today I recognize I am not alone nor are you as we navigate these challenging times. 

We are all called to be light workers of the planet to shine the light. We are called to be part of the transition team that will help the shifting times and we must be the clear vessels to allow the light to shine through us. 

I recognize is very easy to slip into the ultimate caregiver role. Helping others, ease their pain. 

It is important to regulate yourself as well, make sure you observe self care as a priority. I often recommend to my clients self care is like the emergency procedures given on an airplane of slipping on the oxygen mask first before helping those around you. It is in these heighten crisis moments we are currently experiencing we tend to skip this.

As before I still chose to do self care so that when needed I have the oxygen to run the marathon. Everyday I wake up to ask what are my needs and how will they be met? The active role of doing deep inner work while dealing with deep emotional and challenging times is a God send. During my challenging time I still attended to my family. I was the cheerleader, the nursemaid, the taxi driver, the comedian and the shoulder to lean on and I could only do all that because I had the energy, the resources and the connection to my tribe, my community, they were and still are my oxygen.

As I reflect on my past experience I have gain so much from it all. My husband and I still weep when we reflect on the outpouring of love and support that we have received from friends and community. 

To experience love as it breaks your heart open wide is an amazing feeling. 

In todays current times of ever change and unknown outcomes I can be certain you will experience skills adapted, the enhanced abilities and personal growth.

I invite you to take a moment and reflect where you may be located in the co-regulatory gateway. Observe the many ways you have been helping others and the connections and networks you have. Celebrate the resources at your finger tips of the new and forgotten help.
Take a moment and to acknowledge the family you have that come from bloodlines or soul connections. Celebrate deepening interactions that self isolation has created within family circles and connecting to the community around you.

One of the answers to the question of why? 

All of this is propelling your soul into a dimension ready for a new gateway of heightened learning.

It is an opportunity for your soul to express love, kindness and experience the joy.

We are separated by our personal journeys and forever connected through the love for each other,  the compassion shared and the healing that takes place. 

I am happy to help you through this time of uncertainty.

​I offer services in addressing the emotions brought through this trauma. I can be your cheerleader, accountability partner or some relief to isolation. I am available to you to chat about your experience of a co-regulatory community that includes the Wellness Balancing community. Pop over to my digital calendar and let’s connect.

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