Here we are in June. It is the end of the school year and for many there will be a graduation to celebrate. The celebration of a new level of a journey. Excitement, apprehension and relief is flooding in to all those new graduates.
Last year I had the honour of attending my great-nephew's 8th grade graduation.
The year his elementary school opened it’s brand new doors I walked through them as a grade 6 student myself. It made me smile as I looked around and had special memories flooding in.
As the ceremony unfolded I watched and listened as the students came up to receive their awards. The teachers shared the students special qualities as they gave out the awards.
My training in Soul Genesis™ gave me insights on some of the recipients and their special qualities that are part of their soul blueprint.
One student was applauded for their curiosity to ask the question, “why, what, how come”. The teacher remarked on how insightful this was as a 6th grader. This ability to ask questions to find solutions was out of the norm, for many of this age. Meanwhile, I am doing an imaginary fist pump. I am thinking how that child is embracing their eternal pattern of curiosity to the fullest.
Another student was applauded for having tremendous organization skills. It was mentioned this skill is not always clear in middle school. That made my heart sing a kindred spirit song, as organization is my eternal pattern. I was thinking this child is being celebrated for their strengths and will now remember it as a gift.
There was a shy young girl who stood on the stage, waiting quietly with a smile. The comment was 'although shy she could stand strong’ and was helpful to others. I often remark to those who have this in their blueprint - “quiet does not mean lack of strength. It means you go about taking action in a softer manner that is very effective.”
There was the stubborn learner. One who was resistant to new ideas but became the most enthusiastic learner in the grade. Communication was another award to which a middle school student excelled. Again the comment was this was beyond the normal behaviour of this age. It was interesting to see what is viewed as resistant or out of the norm, was in fact a wonderful coping strategy. This strategy is part of their blueprint and will serve these children throughout their lives.
My nephew earned an athletic award. The teacher remarked “he knew how to have fun and let go of the competition” and yet managed to excel at the sport. I observed how his humour and ability relaxes those around him.
The valedictorian speech was given by my great nephew and another student. They spoke about what they had learned and that in 30 years from now it won’t matter the clothes they wore. They talked about what is important, is the friends they surround themselves with.
The principal then spoke directly to the grade 8 students. He talked about how grade 9 will require new levels of learning and commitment. And they may feel it is hard to be confident. He encouraged them to take the positive opportunities when they come their way.
I marvelled at these young 8th grade graduates. Stepping up to take their position as part of the global transition team. Ready to be leaders, players, influencers, and game changers. I believe the planet is in good hands!
I sat there and thought, "Wow, here I am 50+ years later and some things stay the same. Could that principal be speaking to me, Barbara the grownup?"
As adults are we not fearful when we are asked to step into the unknown like those 8th graders?
Our higher grade may be a new position in our career, taking more responsibility in our life.
Our decisions, behaviour and choices are influenced by family, friends and community. We will make different choices or hold to set patterns through these experiences. Either way knowledge is gained.
This grade 8 graduation was a lovely trip down memory lane. There were lots of insights about my growth over the many decades. How at that age I would never have imagined all the learnings I have experienced. I am so grateful that I have learned about my soul design. This understanding explains what I choose to learn, and what I choose to do with that knowledge. All to express myself in an authentic manner.
So my friend, have you had the opportunity to sit in an auditorium this graduation season? Whether you have or haven’t can you imagine your 8th grader self?
Are you still curious or have you become less so over the years?
Are you a resistant learner or have you become the person who will jump in and say “let’s do this?”
Are you worried about what others think?
Have you surrounded yourself with people who are lifting you up and celebrating your wins?
Have you taken those positive opportunities that have been presented? If not, why not?
Are you familiar with your built in coping strategies for life?
Or, are you curious and would like to learn more?
Let’s travel down the 8th grade memory lane together.
If you would like to explore the wonderful unique grown up 8th grader who has passion, plans and purpose - I would love to chat with you about blueprints, patterns, coping strategies and all the wonderful facets that make you, YOU! Check your schedule and then hop on over to my digital calendar to schedule a discovery call.
I look forward to speaking with you soon and travelling down memory lane!
Until next time,
Well, Mercury, is all everyone is talking about these days.
I don't mean Freddie Mercury although he is a hot topic. What I am referring to is Mercury retrograde (RX)! About 3 times a year the planet Mercury takes center stage. Planets can not go backward. Mercury retrograde refers to the relative positions of the planet and Earth. And how they are moving around the Sun which gives it the appearance of a retrograde.
Mercury RX gets the bad rap for our computers getting flaky. The email that was misinterpreted and when our systems go awry. We are warned not to sign contracts or start new businesses during this time.
Seriously how can one planet transit get such a bad rap! And what can we do about it other than taking to our beds?
I am not interested in debating the existence of retrogrades. But, I happened to get curious about the energy of a planet transit and how it affected me. It was my current relationship to the Mercury RX and wondered if it was affecting you too?
During a Mercury RX it often appears that things come to a complete stop.
When you have had previous success in something and now it's stalled, you scratch your head and ask why?
What is different?
Nothing seems to have changed.
The project was running so well last week and now it seems one delay after another.
It may be you are experiencing challenges around a relationship that is blossoming. Both individuals feel excited about the possibilities of where this could lead. And then, all of a sudden miscommunication have you arguing about what was said. And what was meant? Perhaps you want to connect with someone. And you know that connecting with that person would be such a benefit to both of you. Yet your calendars just don't match.
This past while I have been really focusing on systems. Oh yes, those who know me will say "I know...your eternal pattern of organization is activated yet again." And you would be partially right.
It is different in this instance as I do not want to get more organized.
But rather, I am looking for deeper meaning in certain aspects of how I am currently navigating life. I am journaling questions that have popped into my head. Which leads me to do deep healing and clearing of past traumas and wounds.
All to get to the bottom of why!
Behold the Mercury RX!
The energy around a retrograde has us wanting to go more inward. We find ourselves internalizing everything.
To me, a retrograde means the perfect time for review, reflect and rethink!
The systems I am looking at is not necessarily business steps, like the ones I will follow to finish my taxes. Or those I will I use to engage with my community to share knowledge.
I am exploring systems (or adaptation patterns) I have created to help my soul express itself. This, of course, shows up in both my business and my personal world.
Since March 5 I have been reviewing these aspects. I have been going over my business systems to tweak them for more consistency. While my coping pattern for change gets activated as I make lists.
I take a step back from list building to reflect what is working and what is not. The systems that are not working will need to go. I am required to rethink how to move forward with new plans in place.
Lately, I have noticed my energy is laced with frustration, anxiety, and self-criticism. With a good sprinkling of self-doubt. Can you relate?
As an entrepreneur, our businesses are an extension of who we are. What shows up in our personal life is mirrored back in our business and vs versa.
The current retrograde prepares us for a huge energy shift happening later on this month.
We can use the opportunity of this slow-paced retrograde to do the inner work in preparation.
During the retrograde time we often see the patterns appearing.
We will think to ourselves "I thought I dealt with that". And you may have on one level. The fact you see it again says that only part of it was healed. When we are releasing or purging the stuff from our past, we are unpacking the trauma. Did we heal it completely? Or was there some self-sabotage involved that kept it from being completely dealt with.
We only heal what we can consciously deal with at that specific time. So the wound appears again for us to process it and heal layer by layer. When we physically, emotionally or mentally experience past pain, trauma or wound, we can with a full intent release and heal them.
A Mercury retrograde creates the energetic supportive environment to:
- REVIEW what is needed to be released.
- REFLECT on what have been healed in the past and what is left to address now.
- RETHINK our methods moving forward - allow time to integrate the wisdom gained.
I now have a different view on all things Mercury!
While Freddie Mercury shone a light on hidden topics and brought people together with his music. Mercury Retrograde shines a light on hidden aspects of ourselves to reflect and heal so we can continue to move forward.
Either way, I would say "We are the Champions!"
I am happy to help,
I can’t join you at the Freddie Mercury Karaoke night!
I CAN help you with gaining clarity and focus during this Mercury Retrograde.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
ARE YOU READY TO CREATE A NEW PATH?
I love reading my astrology report for the year ahead. I do not think that whatever is written in the stars is etched in stone as we all have free will and choice. But I do love to see a glimpse of the potential of the year ahead.
I also love numerology. I like the concept that everything holds a vibration and numbers do as well. Numbers can indicate the types of vibration that is current or will come up.
Last year 2018 in numerology added up to an 11 year. This represented a we and me energy. This type of energy is about balancing partnerships and individuality.
It was a year represented by the healing of Self and was a year of spiritual understanding.
That was such a huge theme, don't you think?
In our social media and news feeds, we learned how individuals stood up to take back their power. To shed light on the dark energy that was disempowering which creates victims.
We began to question partnerships. Were they were being positively supportive or perhaps fed the disempowerment?
The energy behind 2018 was about clearing. There were those who stood and spoke their truth. Many were courageous to shine a light on the darker corners of our planet. We began to understand on our personal level the old ways were no longer working for us. It seemed like our path was disintegrating behind us as we strode forward through 2018. There was a feeling of no turning back.
That brought up a lot of fear for many of us. I know I felt at times the hot breath of change on my neck while I was not ready to open the door of change and step through. The universe, of course, saw the bigger picture and often pushed me through anyway.
Do you remember playing games as a child and calling out “Ready or not here I come?” It was my theme for 2018. Can you relate?
This makes me feel a bit uneasy about 2019. Will it be as intense? Have the changes I have made be enough or will the learnings be slapping me upside the head this year too?
2019 is the energy of elevation. 2019 in numerology is a 3 year number. Which represents creation, creativity, self-expression and emotion.
Last year we were learning to stand in our truth and speak it.
This year we get to practice our lessons learned and express our uniqueness. We still are in the midst of change. For many of us, it will still be a period of integration of what we learned last year. There will be ample opportunities to apply what we learned and reapply if we did not. Life lesson repetition is what this is called. Around and around we go! We may feel we are always on a merry go round stopping at the same place. However, we are actually stopping with a higher elevation and a deeper perspective.
As we move forward the path behind us disintegrating is forcing us to abandon old ways that will not fit the new. We can begin to feel the anticipation. What is going to happen? How is this going to work? I do not know how to do this? What if I fail?
This is a prime time for our Eternal Patterns to kick in. Anticipation is one of the categories of stress, and our Eternal Pattern is the coping strategy.
The beauty of the 3-year energy is the representation of:
How can I create a new way of doing something? Can I look outside the box at this situation?
How can I use my talents and knowledge from my Soul Blueprint that will help me create the new?
What emotions are coming to the surface? How can I shine a light on the ones I had stuffed down and not acknowledged? Can I embrace those emotions and see how their needs can be met?
For some, you have been actively making changes. For others you may feel like time is running out and panic may be setting in. I can honestly say I have been in both places! In fact, I can alternate from one to another.
When the old ways are coming apart I must make the conscious effort not to focus on the chaos or panic. Otherwise, I will feel disempowered and I can lose my passion while my faith is tested.
The energy theme of this 3 year is creation. Creating our world does come from our thoughts. This will be the learning of patience when making decisions. Being careful of our thoughts as we know every action creates an equal reaction.
Place the panic of time running out and the fear of making a wrong decision on a shelf.
Then get quiet.
Take some deep breaths. Unplug from your devices, go for a walk. Take time in nature. Listen to some beautiful music.
Place your hands on your heart and ask -
* What do I need to acknowledge about making this change?
* What emotions are coming to the surface?
* How can my emotional needs be met?
Pull in your energy. When we attempt to do too much we come restless and reckless! (I call that running through the hallway of change with scissors.)
The first step to gathering your energy always begins with the breath. Then get focused on your heart. This is where the seat of the soul lies. This is where you can receive guidance from your Higher Self.
Remember you are a Divine Soul. You are perfect and not broken. You are on a journey that is about remembering who you are.
This year will be about your true self-expression and how exciting is that?
Embrace 2019 in a state of curiosity and wonderment. What I will learn about myself? What opportunities are going to appear to support that?
This is a time where the veil is being lifted as we can see the dark. We have the choice to acknowledge it for what it is and move towards the light. This is how we become balanced.
We are in a time for the planet to LIVE and CREATE from the heart!
2019 creating your new path to embrace compassion, understanding and honouring your truth as an individual and as part of the universal consciousness.
I am happy to help.
I can't help you with disappearing paths.
I CAN help you build the new path ahead, that aligns with your true Divine Purpose and Divine Blueprint.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Here we are almost at the end of September.
The fresh fall scent in the air, warm days and crisp cool evenings. Perhaps you are enjoying sitting by an evening fire. Are you the type that enjoys watching the fall line up on TV? Are you finding your house a little on the quiet side? The kitchen does not have endless dishes. The fridge has finally been able to cool properly without the ever ending opening and closing. Your gas gage on the car has maintained a lovely setting of almost full all week long!
Are you in the first phase of the blush of empty nesting?
A few short weeks ago you may have made the trek to transfer your beloved darling child to their greatest adventure of all time. Which may be studying at a university or college located in another city, province or heavens…country.
Or are you an old hand at dropping off the new academic to start their wildest dreams.
This might not be your first rodeo at the #student #study #party #needtokeepfocused.
It however may be your first rodeo of #theygraduated #theyhaveajob #theyhavemovedout #nowwhat!
That first while is like being on a honeymoon. Remember back when? Just the two of you sitting in the evening and have deep meaningful conversations. Holding hands and gazing into each others eyes.
Well, I sure hope this is what it is like for you!
In my experience our empty nesting was different.
Yes, I was totally jazzed to finally get the dark grey walls of my sons’ room painted something airy and cheerful. I was looking forward to the zen meditation room I could create in my daughters room.
What I had not anticipated was the no buffer of children.
For a couple of decades the conversations my husband and I had may have started out deep and meaningful but quickly descended into something around one of the children.
It was a constant distraction and over time we lost the ability to really connect.
And there we were sitting next to each other looking at the other person and wondering “who are you?”
And then the even more curious and perhaps even scarier question “who am I?”
Wow! Both those questions kinda knocked me on my butt!
I was so wrapped up in the excitement of the kids growing up, their new adventures in studying, the great new jobs, the new partners in their lives
I had forgotten about my own dreams. I had lost my identity along the way. I was more than a mom, wife, chauffeur, shoulder to cry on when life seemed unfair.
I was a woman who had dreams, bursting with creative ideas, opinions (just ask my husband he will agree on that one). I needed to reacquaint myself with, well myself!
That was when I began my journey, a transition of “who I thought I was” to “who I truly am”.
Yes, some may say it is spiritual which I agree. My thoughts on spirituality is about discovering self love, self acceptance, self awareness while connecting to the oneness of the universe.
I was able to accept that I could put myself first and that did not mean I did not love my family. It meant that I would get more energy and be able to more present and show up as my authentic self.
This was an opportunity for an ending to something, while I transition into another phase of my life.
It was exciting and scary at the same time. Would I change so much my relationship to my husband would suffer? It was difficult I will not kid you on that but it was not about failure or success it was accepting each other as we were. We had grown so much and our view on life had taken on deeper values. We still had our sense of humour. We could still trigger each other but most importantly we respected each other for the people we had become.
I love learning all the different aspects of myself.
My children oscillated between GO MOM and WHERE DID MOM GO?
I was ready to explore who this grown up woman was and to really understand my early beginnings.
The life experiences that shaped my views and outlook on life. I was excited to learn that I had a blueprint for my life.
That all the components of myself were placed strategically to optimize my growth experience.
Now that was exciting!
I was able to see how different patterns would help me in my relationship to my self and relationships to others. It is an ongoing journey with no particular destination in mind, but man I love the scenery along the way! Even when it feels like there are boulders on the path. I know I have the ability to choose the ease to walk around the boulders, or the more difficult to climb over them.
Yes, my relationships have changed, some have deepened, some have fallen away.
My husband and I have experienced some difficult challenges during our transition time of empty nesting. Having the knowledge of our patterns and who we truly are helped rediscover our relationship. We maintained our sense of humour, we connected with each other in a new way and we started to embrace and enjoy our children as adults (although they will always be my kiddos first).
Transition from a full house to empty nesters can be sometimes exciting. It is the transition from I knew “who I thought I was “ to “who I truly am” that is exhilarating.
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you choose what to make over your child’s room into.
I can help you discover the answer to your question of “who am I?”
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Have you fallen asleep at the wheel when driving or experienced a near miss? It can be a frightening experience. On moment your eyes are on the road seeing far ahead and the next moment you are jarred awake bullrushes flying past the windows as you sail through a ditch. A detour sign sighted in your rear view mirror.
Wow that can be so unnerving.
Your heart races, your palms clammy, you breakout in sweat and you pray in gratitude to your angels for having you land where you did in one piece!
The same thing can happen on our spiritual road. One moment you are on a path that is easy to navigate and the next moment you are deep in a field of “what the heck” and “how did I end up here?”
As a driver you took precautions, you took lessons to learn how to navigate sticky situations, you had the car properly serviced and you had a map to follow directions.
It was when you pushed the envelope and you did not listen to the cues coming from your body about fatigue and taking enough breaks to be able to handle the drive and having an alternate route for that detour up ahead.
It was in the cheeky mode (ego) of I can do this if I just push on through.
It will be fine!
I bet you are rethinking that as you dial up a tow truck and open the car door to have water come in soaking those brand new designer shoes.
We have our spiritual practices to assist us on our road.
It can be meditation, clearing our chakras, prayer, addressing the energy in our fields that is not flowing but rather stopping our experiences that are to be filled with grace and ease.
All of a sudden you feel like you are walking through sludge. Everyday seems to have one crisis after another. And when did everyone start becoming so negative, sheesh? And fatigue it feels like something has put a tap on you and turned it on to drain you of vitality, creativity and joy.
Yup, it is spiritual narcolepsy.
I first heard this expression coined by Colette Baron Reid an Oracle Master. And I love it. It really does embody what happens.
When we fall asleep spiritually we forget what we are here to do, the path we are to follow and most importantly we set aside our spiritual practices.
This usually leads us to push the envelope until we wake up flying through life swatting at the bullrushes that are holding us back.
Falling asleep at the spiritual wheel can be the wakeup call you need.
Kinda weird how that happens eh?
So then we start looking around, eyes wide open, on alert to what we missed while taking our spiritual nap.
We see where we had stopped meditating, exercising, praying and clearing out the energy crud. (Yup, crud that’s my highly technical term).
Once we begin to lean into our power, set aside time for ourselves, use our spiritual guidebook for directions; we see that life begins to flow again with more grace and ease.
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you with those damp designer shoes.
I can help you to awaken from your Spiritual Narcolepsy.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Has your journey taken you to somewhere unexpected?
Have you ever been nervous to open something? The anticipation of what you might dare to find inside. And to your surprise it is something totally unexpected.
Let me share a true story.
It all begins in a small Mexican village with a family holiday consisting of my sister and I and our husbands. We rented a lovely home with horses grazing on the mountain behind the house, orange trees in the back yard, hibiscus trees climbing the wall, warm and wonderful days.
As the days unfold we get settled into the home exploring and enjoying. My sister remarks that something is wrong with the toilet in their bathroom. It suddenly is leaking and perhaps running a bit too long. This calls for more investigation.
I am in another room when I hear my sister yell my name in a way that makes me run. I find her and her husband standing in their bathroom with wild looking eyes.
“There are frogs in the tank" she says. “What?” I reply. “Frogs” she says. My brother in law nodding his head in agreement.
He reaches over and lifts the lid.
Yup there they were, three little frogs sitting on the tubing.
How in heavens name did they get there?
We pondered and discussed but could not fathom the journey they had. After a few minutes of discussion it is decided I will text our property manager named Angel, and it became very apparent during our stay that he was indeed an Angel.
I have no Spanish except for greetings, ordering a beer, and thanking someone, nothing in the realm of explaining our situation.
Thankfully Angel’s English is much more proficient. I text a brief message “ Angel can you come to the house as the toilet is leaking and we have frogs in the tank” “WHAT” is the reply “Frogs” I message back. “I will arrive soon” Angel texts back.
True to his word, Angel arrives quickly. I take Angel into the bathroom and he lifts the lid. With the same shocked wild eyes he states “ There are frogs in the tank”. “Yup” I reply.
We both smile and he reaches in a scoops one out and opens the window and out it goes.
In a moment his young assistant comes in with tools to fix the leak and Angel speaks rapid Spanish to the young man and lifts the lid. With the startled wild eyed expression that is now the norm the young man replies something in Spanish. Angel replies in English “Yes frogs.”
All three of us are crowded around the toilet smiling and shaking our heads. Angel scoops out the last two frogs which are then sent out the window. Released to the outdoors our little friends have found freedom.
This story makes me think about how we navigate life. We go about our days, eyes wide open taking everything in. We have it all under control right?
I imagine the little frogs felt they had their life under control.
Swimming along and saw something new to explore, a little tunnel. Where could it lead and what could be at the end of it? As they ventured into new territory they found themselves stuck unable to turn back.
This can be very similar to when we start a new journey, ready to transform and change when life feels frustrating or unfulfilling. We are excited to get started to then find ourselves later questioning our decision with fear. What if there is no escape? What if it is worse than where we are now?
How did we find ourselves in this situation? What journey did we take to get here? Are we afraid to open the lid to what we may find?
The trio of frogs kept moving forward. Their commitment to finding a solution to the situation was their intuition that there was an opening and a place to rest.
Our little frogs did something to change their situation by getting our attention.
The leaking toilet alerted us to their plight. They took action by sitting on the tubing out of harms way and waiting for curious humans to lift the lid. They were calm and did not fight the tank. Instead they were patient and waited in their “hallway” for a new door to open.
That door was opened by Angel who assisted them and set them free to enjoy the big outdoors again.
Sometimes our life transition journey requires a decision to seek assistance, commitment to action followed by rest to regroup and then results.
When the fear of the new decision sets in we may feel stuck, this is a perfect time to check in and lift the lid.
Is there a pattern we can see?
Do we have a belief that is being uncovered?
What little frogs are waiting patiently to alert us to the learnings in the moment?
This opportunity is where you may:
- connect to your Soul guidance for navigation to access your path
- understand your purpose from your Soul blueprint,
- recognize the obstacle
- confidently see the solution
- take the appropriate action ask for assistance if further clarity is required
- find yourself free to explore again
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you with any plumbing problems caused by frogs.
I can help you look under your lid to find the solutions
to moving easily through your tunnel.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Spring cleaning suggestions are flooding in.
It that time of the year again where our inboxes are filled with blog ideas about spring and how to refresh our homes. I love reading them as I am an organizing freak so it gets me very excited. I also am a spring cleaning nut.
Nothing brings me more satisfaction than to wash walls and hunt down dust bunnies.
Here is a true story about my daughter referring to me as a spring cleaning dinosaur.
I am currently residing with my sister and it is apparent we inherited the same clean gene as she too can't wait for warmer weather to get her clean freak on. It will be fun to see how similar or different our approaches are as we approach this task.
My sister and I have the same checklist for spring cleaning that includes, window washing, wall washing, draperies cleaned, cupboards scrubbed etc.
It is in the execution of the process that will vary and is certain to cause robust conversation as to the best approach as only sisters can have!
It is fascinating to view similarities and differences when providing Soul Genesis™ information within families.
It is great insight one gets in families on how a Soul Blueprint may have aspects that are the same. Or than can be very complimentary in their differences and it explains how that may impact a relationship.
I suspect on the spring cleaning days our husbands will find opportunities for male bonding, far from the house to be clear when our eternal patterns get activated. Being 2 middle aged women that are of strong character I have an inkling that our patterns will be in full bloom.
Eternal patterns come into play when we are stressed, solving problems or resolving relationship conflicts.
Something as simple as discussing what is the best way to obtain a streak free window can activate your eternal pattern. Of course it can also represent a deeper emotion such as an older sibling taking advice from a younger sibling. Or a younger sibling releasing the need to being heard in the family. Hmmmmmm, now that is an interesting reflection?
Do you know and understand your eternal pattern?
How does that impact your relationships?
I use my eternal pattern of organization as a barometer to measure how deep I am into my stress. How easily I am solving my problems, and am I engaging with others in a calm and respectful manner? When I am aware there is an imbalance in any area I can readjust and realign my energies. This gives a better flow of grace and ease to my life especially when sharing time with others.
This spring I look forward to warm weather and enjoying clean surroundings.
I especially will enjoy bonding with my sister, doing what we both love... spring cleaning, while understanding each other in a deep soulful way!
If you would like to refresh your understanding of your eternal pattern
or perhaps learn about it for the first time -
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions