Here we are in June. It is the end of the school year and for many there will be a graduation to celebrate. The celebration of a new level of a journey. Excitement, apprehension and relief is flooding in to all those new graduates.
Last year I had the honour of attending my great-nephew's 8th grade graduation.
The year his elementary school opened it’s brand new doors I walked through them as a grade 6 student myself. It made me smile as I looked around and had special memories flooding in.
As the ceremony unfolded I watched and listened as the students came up to receive their awards. The teachers shared the students special qualities as they gave out the awards.
My training in Soul Genesis™ gave me insights on some of the recipients and their special qualities that are part of their soul blueprint.
One student was applauded for their curiosity to ask the question, “why, what, how come”. The teacher remarked on how insightful this was as a 6th grader. This ability to ask questions to find solutions was out of the norm, for many of this age. Meanwhile, I am doing an imaginary fist pump. I am thinking how that child is embracing their eternal pattern of curiosity to the fullest.
Another student was applauded for having tremendous organization skills. It was mentioned this skill is not always clear in middle school. That made my heart sing a kindred spirit song, as organization is my eternal pattern. I was thinking this child is being celebrated for their strengths and will now remember it as a gift.
There was a shy young girl who stood on the stage, waiting quietly with a smile. The comment was 'although shy she could stand strong’ and was helpful to others. I often remark to those who have this in their blueprint - “quiet does not mean lack of strength. It means you go about taking action in a softer manner that is very effective.”
There was the stubborn learner. One who was resistant to new ideas but became the most enthusiastic learner in the grade. Communication was another award to which a middle school student excelled. Again the comment was this was beyond the normal behaviour of this age. It was interesting to see what is viewed as resistant or out of the norm, was in fact a wonderful coping strategy. This strategy is part of their blueprint and will serve these children throughout their lives.
My nephew earned an athletic award. The teacher remarked “he knew how to have fun and let go of the competition” and yet managed to excel at the sport. I observed how his humour and ability relaxes those around him.
The valedictorian speech was given by my great nephew and another student. They spoke about what they had learned and that in 30 years from now it won’t matter the clothes they wore. They talked about what is important, is the friends they surround themselves with.
The principal then spoke directly to the grade 8 students. He talked about how grade 9 will require new levels of learning and commitment. And they may feel it is hard to be confident. He encouraged them to take the positive opportunities when they come their way.
I marvelled at these young 8th grade graduates. Stepping up to take their position as part of the global transition team. Ready to be leaders, players, influencers, and game changers. I believe the planet is in good hands!
I sat there and thought, "Wow, here I am 50+ years later and some things stay the same. Could that principal be speaking to me, Barbara the grownup?"
As adults are we not fearful when we are asked to step into the unknown like those 8th graders?
Our higher grade may be a new position in our career, taking more responsibility in our life.
Our decisions, behaviour and choices are influenced by family, friends and community. We will make different choices or hold to set patterns through these experiences. Either way knowledge is gained.
This grade 8 graduation was a lovely trip down memory lane. There were lots of insights about my growth over the many decades. How at that age I would never have imagined all the learnings I have experienced. I am so grateful that I have learned about my soul design. This understanding explains what I choose to learn, and what I choose to do with that knowledge. All to express myself in an authentic manner.
So my friend, have you had the opportunity to sit in an auditorium this graduation season? Whether you have or haven’t can you imagine your 8th grader self?
Are you still curious or have you become less so over the years?
Are you a resistant learner or have you become the person who will jump in and say “let’s do this?”
Are you worried about what others think?
Have you surrounded yourself with people who are lifting you up and celebrating your wins?
Have you taken those positive opportunities that have been presented? If not, why not?
Are you familiar with your built in coping strategies for life?
Or, are you curious and would like to learn more?
Let’s travel down the 8th grade memory lane together.
If you would like to explore the wonderful unique grown up 8th grader who has passion, plans and purpose - I would love to chat with you about blueprints, patterns, coping strategies and all the wonderful facets that make you, YOU! Check your schedule and then hop on over to my digital calendar to schedule a discovery call.
I look forward to speaking with you soon and travelling down memory lane!
Until next time,
This week is a double whammy!
Our son turned 35 on Tuesday and Mother’s Day on Sunday! I can’t believe the time has flown by so fast.
It just seems like yesterday that I celebrated my first Mothers Day. Of course our son was 1 week old and I oscillated between extreme joy of being a first time mother to extreme fear of being a first time mother.
I WAS TERRIFIED TO BE A MOM!
Can you relate?
It was a big decision to start a family. In fact it was so big it took 7 years of decision. It seemed my husband and I were never really on the same page at the same time until the 7th year.
According to Joanne Walmsley who writes on what numbers mean - “Angel Number 7 tells of learning new skills, listening to your own inner-knowing, and stepping out of your comfort zone in order to further develop and advance on all levels.”
Well I tell ya, that's a truth bomb right there!
There is nothing like having a baby to learn new life skills, and I was totally out of my comfort zone. I second guessed any inner knowing and yet there was a stirring in me that I connected with this little being. I guess having him in my body for 9 months will do that.
Our start off to parenthood was a long and trying labour. I won’t bore you with the details but lets just say 35 years later I still remember it like yesterday! My fear of not being able to care for a child was at an all time high. We had no family near by and I felt like a fish out of water. Back in those days you were kept in the hospital for about 1 week and because of the baby being jaundiced we stayed a couple of extra days.
I was secretly relieved until the doctor announced it was time to be discharged.
I asked if we could stay a bit longer. The doctor inquired as to how long and I replied “until he is 18”.
Yup, I was dead serious.
Well, the hospital did not see my version of parenting and sent us home. Those first few days were a roller coaster of emotions. Hormones at an all time high! My husband reflects on that week and did not know who cried more the baby or I. But life did settle down and being a mom became more and more comfortable. 3 years later with my confidence installed we welcomed our daughter.
My momma mantra was “You did not come with a manual and I am doing the best I can with the tools I got.”
Thank God, they did not realize how limited my toolbox was!
Remember this was in days before computers, Google, parenting blogs and don’t get me started on feeling the energy because I was not plugged in at all.
My Dr. Spock Guide to Parenting was dog eared. As I read the book the information did not resonate. It almost seemed alien…no Star Trek pun intended.
As time went on I began to listen more and more to my inner-knowing. I developed and advanced on all levels as my interests into the realm of energy grew.
My wish for a parenting manual came into existence and it is one that resonates deeply.
My children are grownups however I am still a mom. Parenting never stops, it deepens and morphs as they become adults. It is a fine dance to be supportive and observe and give guidance when asked. And step the heck back when not asked!
The body of work that provided the information to parent not only effectively but consciously... is Soul Genesis.
Soul Genesis is a deep body of work that outlines your souls blueprint. Why you are who you are and what you are here to experience.
In true transparency I have no profile on my son as it is not of interest to him. My daughter did ask to have her profile completed when she was older and it was amazing. It explained to both her and I who she was at her core. I also showed how we have some similar traits and why we understand and also trigger each other. It was so beautiful for me as a mom to see the depth of her soul.
Although I do not have access to my son's soul essence I do understand my role in his life through my own blueprint, and that has helped me understand our mom/son relationship.
Soul Genesis gave me the dance steps to guide, observe and keep my opinions mostly to myself (remember earlier I wrote about being out of my comfort zone as part of my learning and developing..will just say I am continuing to learn when to lead and when to follow) as I enter into the parent/adult relationship.
Do I still mess up? Yes!
Am I still terrified being a mom? Somedays!
I have reflected if having this knowledge would have been of benefit when guiding my children in their formative years. I always get a resounding yes.
I have the understanding that there is divine timing and I was not ready to have certain information sooner than I did. I needed to have experienced my own growth before I understood the depth of theirs.
I love working with parents who have a soul profile compiled for their children, after they have had their own done.
It is like handing them a Universe Guide to Conscious Parenting.
They never look at their child through the same lens again. They truly see them for the gift, the wise one and the perfect divine being.
And let me tell you whether you are parenting a 2 year old through a tantrum or a 16 year old with attitude we have the choice to see them through the eyes of the universe in that moment as a conscious parent.
You still will want to lock yourself in the bathroom for quiet time away from toddlers. You may have to count to 100 before you explode when your teenager rolls their eyes and mutters under their breath how you nag them... because they have ignored your pleas to stop leaving unfinished plates of food in their room.
I can relate and understand my children from an energetic point. When repeating patterns are showing up and why. The soul contracts being fulfilled and my child's contribution to the growth of the planet.
It is a different energetic time on this earth and dare I say a different way to parent.
I am happy that I decided to become a mother.
Being a parent is the hardest relationship I have ever entered into as it is a level of vulnerability that can be so raw and yet so beautiful at the same time.
I have learned a lot about myself on this journey called motherhood that started 35 years ago.
They may leave the nest but they leave an imprint on your heart forever.
Enjoy Mother's day as a child, a parent, step parent, co parent, grandparent, aunt, friend. As you honour the celebration of birth, growth, nurturing and learning of self and others.
I am happy to help.
I may not be able to prevent your teenager from leaving plates of unfinished food in their room but...
I can supply a guide to understand the why.
If you have questions about Soul Genesis and conscious parenting.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
From the minute we bring a child home we are planning their future. And here it is the day you have been waiting for. What a ride! The day has arrived your little precious child is all grown up and heading off to his or her excellent adventure that perhaps requires secondary education.
An adventure that will probably cost about $30,000.00 or more per year.
Yikes! That will cause some nights of, did we plan enough to pay for it all? Will they actually study or will it be one expensive party year? Will they use that degree in the studies of:
• Politicizing Beyonce
• David Beckham
• Zombie Studies
• Simpsons and Philosophy
• Arguing With Judge Judy
• Harry Potter and The Age Of Illusion
• Star Trek
Yup, these are apparently degrees one can choose from says Google. So if you have an aspiring wizard, or they have argued with you since their first word which was NO in a language that sounded Klingon, they are certainly covered.
What an amazing time in both of your lives.
The transition from carefree child to child that has to make decisions based on an interest in the moment, to hope that there will be employment in 4 years.
No pressure there right?
The transition from cheerleading, hovering parent to “so you do understand that you will have to get up on your own and go to class all by yourself”. Right?
Perhaps you are saying, “been there done that and got the graduation picture to prove it”.
Our 34 year old son loved coding from a very young age. In fact he helped me design my first website when he was about 13. I was sure he was going to be the next Bill Gates. Nope, that was not happening. From the age of 4 to this day he is a Lego fanatic as creating and building was a passion of his. When the time to choose his secondary education, he chose College with a degree in Electronics Engineering. It was the best of both worlds and he still loves what he does.
My fondest memory is our daughter, who is 3 years younger than her brother debating with him if she could or could not read a chapter book. She was in Kindergarten at the time. Her hands firmly planted on her hips she won the debate with a “I can read words and chapter books are just a bunch of words.” She checked out her first library chapter book and her love of words took her to University graduating with a degree in English. Her career is helping others find their words to market their business. This journey was an interesting one of many career changes. One which lead her into the trades for over a year as a apprentice glazier. At the time she felt it was the hardest job as it was very physical and she learned a lot about herself and her “true grit”. However, her love of words kept calling until she answered it to follow her true passion.
Ah yes, life transitions no matter what, they alter our lives and our perceptions of ourselves, and how we view the world.
Think back over your situations that felt transitional.
Did you ever wonder why you chose to receive that particular degree or training…before you knew there was one on Harry Potter studies?
What felt right in that moment that this was the path for you?
Did you choose for yourself?
Did you choose out of family obligation? (or after a long line of Podiatrists the change to Zombie studies was made.)
What was the deciding factor?
Did the choice continue to satisfy you or after some years a change in studies or career happened?
Did you graduate with a degree or training to say "nope, I do not think this is for me"?
We are hard wired for certain experiences and learnings. It comes in our soul design of what will help us grow expand and fulfill our souls purpose, as it explores the human journey.
When a life transition comes into play having deep knowledge of our blueprint helps the navigation.
When making the decisions based on how we are designed, they can be made with a clarity, focus and confidence.
Yes, of course we still may want to change our minds about studying philosophy according to Homer Simpson to Politicizing Beyonce, but we will understand why learning each of those topics are of interest, and why it was required in being who we are designed to be.
It supports our decisions and we can release judgment of failure, and embrace the truth that at our core we are perhaps curious by nature. It may be that changing midway allows us to receive various world views that are important to our growth and how it relates to our contribution to the planet.
Understanding your soul blueprint will help you see the patterns of why you chose a particular path, how you are designed to make your decisions and where you will apply your unique abilities to fulfill your purpose.
Whether you have a small child just starting school, a young adult heading off to write their own adventure, or you are questioning the next chapter in your own life, having a guidebook will help along the way.
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you study for the Harry Potter exam.
I can help support you while you make choices “to boldly go where no man has gone before..."
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Spring cleaning suggestions are flooding in.
It that time of the year again where our inboxes are filled with blog ideas about spring and how to refresh our homes. I love reading them as I am an organizing freak so it gets me very excited. I also am a spring cleaning nut.
Nothing brings me more satisfaction than to wash walls and hunt down dust bunnies.
Here is a true story about my daughter referring to me as a spring cleaning dinosaur.
I am currently residing with my sister and it is apparent we inherited the same clean gene as she too can't wait for warmer weather to get her clean freak on. It will be fun to see how similar or different our approaches are as we approach this task.
My sister and I have the same checklist for spring cleaning that includes, window washing, wall washing, draperies cleaned, cupboards scrubbed etc.
It is in the execution of the process that will vary and is certain to cause robust conversation as to the best approach as only sisters can have!
It is fascinating to view similarities and differences when providing Soul Genesis™ information within families.
It is great insight one gets in families on how a Soul Blueprint may have aspects that are the same. Or than can be very complimentary in their differences and it explains how that may impact a relationship.
I suspect on the spring cleaning days our husbands will find opportunities for male bonding, far from the house to be clear when our eternal patterns get activated. Being 2 middle aged women that are of strong character I have an inkling that our patterns will be in full bloom.
Eternal patterns come into play when we are stressed, solving problems or resolving relationship conflicts.
Something as simple as discussing what is the best way to obtain a streak free window can activate your eternal pattern. Of course it can also represent a deeper emotion such as an older sibling taking advice from a younger sibling. Or a younger sibling releasing the need to being heard in the family. Hmmmmmm, now that is an interesting reflection?
Do you know and understand your eternal pattern?
How does that impact your relationships?
I use my eternal pattern of organization as a barometer to measure how deep I am into my stress. How easily I am solving my problems, and am I engaging with others in a calm and respectful manner? When I am aware there is an imbalance in any area I can readjust and realign my energies. This gives a better flow of grace and ease to my life especially when sharing time with others.
This spring I look forward to warm weather and enjoying clean surroundings.
I especially will enjoy bonding with my sister, doing what we both love... spring cleaning, while understanding each other in a deep soulful way!
If you would like to refresh your understanding of your eternal pattern
or perhaps learn about it for the first time -
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
New Years Resolutions… you either embrace them or if you are like me you just plain dislike them.
It is not like I don’t like change.
Well, maybe I am not the biggest fan and that might be why these past 4 years have been a constant source of change. Just the universe’s way of having a chuckle saying "that which you resist will persist."
In the past, I make a resolution to find that within a short period of time I have abandoned it with glee!
Over the past several years I made a conscious decision I would not longer embrace resolutions.
I do find that I easily embrace (one of two)
a) Building on from the previous year
b) Starting a fresh idea.
You might be saying that sounds like a resolution. Webster’s dictionary definition of resolution as “a firm decision to do or not to do something”. And that is where I get a little annoyed in the resolution wording “firm decision".
I like to have flexibility.
I enjoy being able to start something and when I see that it no longer works for me to easily let it go. Or if I love it I can visualize adding to it, and having the freedom to do so.
This takes me to my dreams, plans and a vision for a new year.
We all have them. Some of us make rituals around them, write letters and burn them, write mantras or affirmations. We meditate and journal.
I love all of this as it helps to get my creative juices going. It is when I feel the creativity getting stuck that I start to investigate why? What needs to be calibrated to help me get on track?
The past week was a not only a new year beginning it was also a full moon, a super moon. This meant doing a little ritual I enjoy.
At specific moon times I like to draw oracle cards to see what is energetically in store for the upcoming month.
I also like to clear any misalignments in my energy grid to the universal energies.
“Times are difficult globally,” explains Pema Chödrön. “Awakening is no longer a luxury or an ideal. It’s becoming critical.”
Wow, that hit home today. We are in chaos and unsettling times. Do you feel that way too? For several months now my clients are reflecting that their life is in chaos, and that includes me. I am not immune from this energy. My life takes turns being easy and flowing to riding white rapids that want to make me sick.
The current state of world events has everyone wondering what has happened to our planet. Has everyone gone mad? When it becomes crucial for change the precursor is immense discomfort. After all why change if everything feels comfortable? Of course we wonder, can't we create change with grace and ease? Yes, I do believe we can although there are some circumstances that require a huge shake up and I do believe this is one of them.
We are being called to awaken - to wake up. Do we even know we are asleep? What does it mean to awaken?