Have you fallen asleep at the wheel when driving or experienced a near miss? It can be a frightening experience. On moment your eyes are on the road seeing far ahead and the next moment you are jarred awake bullrushes flying past the windows as you sail through a ditch. A detour sign sighted in your rear view mirror.
Wow that can be so unnerving.
Your heart races, your palms clammy, you breakout in sweat and you pray in gratitude to your angels for having you land where you did in one piece!
The same thing can happen on our spiritual road. One moment you are on a path that is easy to navigate and the next moment you are deep in a field of “what the heck” and “how did I end up here?”
As a driver you took precautions, you took lessons to learn how to navigate sticky situations, you had the car properly serviced and you had a map to follow directions.
It was when you pushed the envelope and you did not listen to the cues coming from your body about fatigue and taking enough breaks to be able to handle the drive and having an alternate route for that detour up ahead.
It was in the cheeky mode (ego) of I can do this if I just push on through.
It will be fine!
I bet you are rethinking that as you dial up a tow truck and open the car door to have water come in soaking those brand new designer shoes.
We have our spiritual practices to assist us on our road.
It can be meditation, clearing our chakras, prayer, addressing the energy in our fields that is not flowing but rather stopping our experiences that are to be filled with grace and ease.
All of a sudden you feel like you are walking through sludge. Everyday seems to have one crisis after another. And when did everyone start becoming so negative, sheesh? And fatigue it feels like something has put a tap on you and turned it on to drain you of vitality, creativity and joy.
Yup, it is spiritual narcolepsy.
I first heard this expression coined by Colette Baron Reid an Oracle Master. And I love it. It really does embody what happens.
When we fall asleep spiritually we forget what we are here to do, the path we are to follow and most importantly we set aside our spiritual practices.
This usually leads us to push the envelope until we wake up flying through life swatting at the bullrushes that are holding us back.
Falling asleep at the spiritual wheel can be the wakeup call you need.
Kinda weird how that happens eh?
So then we start looking around, eyes wide open, on alert to what we missed while taking our spiritual nap.
We see where we had stopped meditating, exercising, praying and clearing out the energy crud. (Yup, crud that’s my highly technical term).
Once we begin to lean into our power, set aside time for ourselves, use our spiritual guidebook for directions; we see that life begins to flow again with more grace and ease.
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you with those damp designer shoes.
I can help you to awaken from your Spiritual Narcolepsy.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Is Peeking Through The Veils Like Seeing A Scary Movie… Or Are You Curious To See What Is Behind The Curtain?
I know many of you are doing self awareness work. Healing limiting decisions, understanding and clearing the patterns we have adapted in order to survive our lives. There comes a time when we start asking WTF. Why am I seeing this again? Seriously I have dealt with it before. Or you have been so diligent in keeping your energies clear, surrounding yourself with positive people and yet something will come along and perhaps blindside you to take you out at the knees. Can you relate?
There is a theme these days and the reason why I see it as a theme in my life is that people mirror it back to me.
If you see it in someone else take a peek under the hood it is in you too!
The theme is everything is on super speed and you feel you can’t keep up. It seems like you think of something and it materializes. Instant manifestation followed by the "oh crikey, what now I am not ready."
Well, my friends this is the new reality. We talk about veils and how thin they are. I see veils as a way to keep something separated like a curtain on a window. The light may come through but when you look at the view is slightly obscured so you know something is there but it is not clear.
We use veils to prepare ourselves for when we have the knowledge and ability to see what is actually there. For example when you are ready to really release a pattern that you have had for a life time or perhaps many lifetimes you will lift the “curtain” so to speak and truly see it for what it is. Then you can understand it, heal it, surrender it and let it go as it no longer is an adaptation that is required.
It is like watching a scene in a scary movie. You know there is something that is making you afraid but you are not sure what it is. Just when you think the worst will happen a curious cat jumps out of the shadows which makes you laugh. It not what you had built up in your mind after all is it?
This is what lifting the veil is like. You peek through it with one eye not sure of what you will find. You might do this a few times before you are really ready to pull that veil all the way down. The reality of the current energy is that there is no time to really peek and retreat. Once you put that intention out there, the veil is pulled down for you.
You do have some options.
Taking a breath is the first.
Followed by curiosity rather than fear.
If you can look at a situation with a question of “I wonder why” rather than “Oh crap here I go again” the solution will come with grace and ease.
CURIOSITY is OPENNESS while FEAR comes with a huge dose of JUDGEMENT.
When your curiosity has uncovered a few items take the time to explore them.
Ask the questions.
Setting some time for yourself to sit with these questions and writing out the responses will help you release the energy around the emotion from your answers. (I personally think of it like a mind dump - having someplace to hold those ideas and questions while observing and waiting for answers.)
Putting words to paper is like setting a butterfly free. You are giving the words wings to fly energetically to the universe where intentions can be returned as your manifestations.
The answers to these questions will open yourself to deeper exploration. Yes, the veil may lift, however we can explore, assimilate, integrate and grow with curiosity and non attachment.
I am happy to help!
I cannot help you with that curious cat hiding in the shadows.
I can help you lift the veil and see clearly the view that is waiting for your exploration.
Until next time,
If there is one thing we can all agree on is that there is some crazy stuff happening in the world right now. I am not one to follow the news, politics or any of that however you cannot be a resident of this planet without being affected, or informed about the happenings in some fashion.
I have been observing some rather interesting patterns during client sessions. Many people are currently dealing with energy misalignments around vulnerability and feeling very energy sensitive to others.
This affects the day to day experience. I was not really sure what that was all about until I saw the recent energy update from Lee Harris. His theme for the month of June and July was about power and vulnerability.
For those of you who may not be familiar with shields let me give you the Coles notes version. A shield is an energetic field that surrounds your soul essence, top, bottom and sides, front and back. The purpose of the shields are to deflect low dense vibrational energy that would not serve your highest good. The soul can never be broken or damaged and does not need fixing, however, the energy around it can get disrupted with low dense vibration causing misinformation and leaving you feeling vulnerable.
Think of it like listening to a radio station and static interferes with the song. The energy disruption may interrupt the clarity in your guidance that you are seeking.
“Hold on a minute!” you might be saying, “wasn’t that addressed in my initial session.”
Yes, for many there may have been shields missing and that would have been corrected. The shields respond to what we are attracting to us through our understanding and intention. (The old saying energy flows where intention goes.) Current global environment is creating a nervous energy and this information is relayed into the grids where of course we are connected. Being energy sensitives it can be overwhelming and throw us off by creating responses that we don’t quite understand.
Think of a goalie in a hockey net who is used to a certain skill level of a team and then all of a sudden an Olympic team shows up. The goalie is going to have to stretch themselves to a new level of deflecting and protecting that net. A different strategy and perception would be required than the familiar one being accessed. Once the goalie understands how this Olympic team operates the level of his/her ability raises and can effectively protect the net.
This is the same of your shields operating in a new paradigm shift of energy. Your awareness and the ability to address disruptive or lower vibration and where it is originating modulates the shields to deflect the incoming energy.
Using self care and clearing any resistant energies that are activated raises your vibration to align with new energy updates and guides the shields.
Clients are feeling that they are not safe, feeling outside their comfort zone or perhaps they are experiencing something new which is unexplained. This is because they have tapped into the nervous energy being played out in the global consciousness right now. The power struggle among those in positions of authority will affect those who are energy sensitive.
Where are you seeing a power struggle in your own life?
Is it with people in your relationships?
Are you feeling this internally?
Does it feel as though you are disempowered?
Vulnerability and power are closely related. If we deny our vulnerability it will cause struggle to embody being our empowered self. This may show up in our life by not being able to trust. You many notice that you have trouble surrendering and letting go to allow your inner guidance be your life compass.
Power imbalances may show up when our actions may affect another persons vulnerability. Those around us mirror back to us what our current state is. Are we projecting our emotions onto them and then seeing it mirrored back to us?
We may even energetically take on the vulnerability of another as they project on to us or in the case of accessing their energy through our connections. This creates difficulty because we are acting on a vulnerability that is not actually our own. I am sure you have experienced a situation that your life is flowing smoothly, you have great emotions but then seemingly out of left field you start to feel nervous and doubt yourself. If you explore a little deeper someone in your relationship circle may be having a lot of fear or angst and you are picking up on their energy not your own. Take a moment and reflect how watching news reports, social media posts and passionate discussions with others leaves you feeling upset, angry or nervous where you were not that before hand.
You may be in the position of not pushing into your power in life but rather questioning what power is. There is a current paradigm shift from the old patterns of - what am I getting and, I am not safe unless I take power from others. Your vulnerability is asking - am I safe, will I be taken care of if I do this and, what happens to people in my life if my path changes?
The power comes from understanding the connections. The connections to self, to others, to what is currently active in front of us and when we recognize we are more than just our self and see connection to the wholeness of ONE we can comprehend the scope of being plugged into the cosmic energy consciousness.
It was so refreshing to clients to understand:
The empowerment of knowledge creates the safe space to stand in that power with a vulnerability that is not disempowering. This knowledge gave them the confidence to release the nervous energy they may be inadvertently connecting to and with that understanding their shields can deflect what is not in their highest good.
I am happy to help!
I cannot help you if you are looking for a goalie.
I can help you if you need some clarity about the type of energies that are coming toward you and how they may be affecting your ability stand in your power.
Until next time,
I thought about the length of this post and perhaps I should prepare it in smaller versions. Then I thought about what it represents and I am over short versions. As really I am relating to the long haul, the journey and the path along with which we travel. So I will not apologize for the length, I will however invite you to pour yourself a bevy of choice, put your feet up and take a moment to read this. I hope you enjoy the story and perhaps share your own inspirational journey with me.
This story begins in Winnipeg and ends in British Columbia.
Some 38 years ago when I first heard a name Terry Fox, I had no idea what his journey would mean to me personally.
For those of you who may not be familiar with Terry’s story let me share a bit about it.
This tenacious and determined young man was born in Winnipeg Manitoba in 1958. A city I know well as I was born there in 1956. His mother Betty would become a cheerleader and advocate for his cause something that I can relate to having had the amazing opportunity to do so for my family. He grew up in Port Coquitlam British Columbia and loved sports. Something I do not share although I do admire those who can and do have talent and the ability find joy participating in various sports. Terry competed in basketball and cross country running. He had the mental toughness to succeed. I on the other hand always doubted my abilities in life and did not have much confidence to stand in any kind of power in my early years.
In March 9, 1977, Terry discovers that he has a malignant tumour in his right leg which results in being amputated above the knee. In my life I was planning a September wedding to my high school sweetheart. Terry’s life being impacted by a diagnosis and mine starting a life full of adventure and hope, both of us unaware what life would require of us. Each one at different ends of a scale both with equal opportunity to dig deep when life goes sideways.
Terry’s heroes journey begins the month of February 1979 as he decides to train for a run across Canada from the east to west coast to raise money and awareness for Cancer research.
April 12, 1980, Terry dips his artificial leg in the Atlantic ocean in St. John’s Newfoundland and begins his marathon as he runs 43 km (23 miles) per day which takes him through 6 provinces. I have visited St. John’s Newfoundland as my very dear friend and Soul Genesis mentor resides just outside the city. It is a breath taking province with beautiful but rugged terrain. I cannot fathom running along side the highway in winds and weather that can be hurricane quality. Terry did, with his small crew following behind in a van collecting the funds that the scores of people in various communities were giving and being there when he needed rest.
In the year 1978 until 1981 my life was in the city of Thunder Bay, Ontario. My husband’s career had us living in the port city with beautiful Lake Superior and amazing landscapes.
September 1,1980 after 143 days and 5,373 kilometres (3,339 miles) in a news conference held in Thunder Bay, it was announced that Terry’s primary cancer had spread to his lungs and his Marathon of Hope would be suspended while he received treatment. My husband and I heard this sad news while we were on holiday in Toronto, Ontario. I remember weeping feeling so sad and compassion for the handsome, curly haired young man who brought a nation together in courage and hope. His message to the country was “I’m gonna do my very best. I’ll fight. I promise I won’t give up.”
Sadly on June 28, 1981 Terry dies in New Westminster British Columbia just shy of his 23rd birthday.
My life has now been moved to another northern town and in time my husband and I settle in Mississauga Ontario, just outside of Toronto.
The Terry Fox foundation to date has raised $750 million worldwide for cancer research. Betty Fox became the spokesperson and familiar face at the events. Before her death in 2011 she had spoken to more than 400,000 school children and her parting words in every speech, “Never, ever give up on your dreams.”
My life carried on with the birth of 2 children. We returned to Thunder Bay one summer on a family vacation and took our children to view the statue of the young man that they learned about in school. It was a poignant moment and it will be a several years before my husband and I return.
As our children grow and we go through life transitions that only family can bring about, I have many times had to dig deep into my resources to find strength and courage to fight and to not give up.
Through this period I am learning new knowledge through many self awareness courses, certifications in wholistic practices and have started to help people through their own life transitions.
In 2013 my husband was one of the casualties of the economy and after 16 years working globally for a company found himself in the land of unemployment. It was devastating news however with his skill set he was not too concerned that the opportunities would come. The wait was on and on and on.
As the realization that the economy was not aligning opportunities we decided in 2015 to relocate to British Columbia. Our destination was not totally defined however we had strong feelings to around the Coquitlam or Abbotsford area. The early dream to retire in this province was going to become a reality, except we were not ready to hang up our businesses and thought it would a nice gateway to a slower pace for that next transition.
Then life throws a curve ball. The kind that takes your breath away and has you grasping on for dear life.
Through all the planning and the moving and the packing my husband had his right foot in a cast resulting in me doing the all the preparation work. A May injury to his ankle results in many trips to Drs. before the correct diagnosis is given.
Nothing is going to stop us. My husband has Terry’s mental toughness to succeed and determination to make his dreams come true. I was not sure about my own abilities. The sale of our home is to be finalized on Oct 1, and another curve ball, seriously the universe really had us in the “dug out”.
Our 38th wedding anniversary was on that September 23 and we celebrated that day in the hospital. The cast had been removed earlier in the month and my husband was in a walking boot. This created a small wound which in 3 days became a raging infection. And yes, for those who are wondering he is a diabetic. The announcement came on September 22 that his right leg would need to be amputated below the knee.
“Hold on….did you say amputated?” We have a move happening, our house is closing in 9 days! The whirlwind of activity that took place and the love that started pouring over us was like a Tsunami.
The surgery took place and I shall share more about that another time of how the universe has your back and I say that with complete utter trust and confidence.
The rehabilitation was quick and my husband very focused. The goals he had printed on the white board in his room was out by Christmas driving by February. Which of course he did make happen.
We set up household in a rental condo with only the necessary boxes unpacked. We settled into the new life, the hallway of never again and not yet. I found myself having to physically be able to move locations, care for a husband who was recovering from a surgery that for a period of time left his mobility limited, while dealing with my own dreams being crushed. Totally, vaporized.
I was not only in a hallway I was in what felt like the hallway of hell. Of course I was not alone my husband felt the weight of how his life would continue from this point in time. Our fear, anxiety, anger, grief was the emotion of the day. Some days we could support each other completely and other days all we could muster was getting out of bed.
I had self help tools that I had been collecting for about 14 years. My journey of spirituality and self awareness gave me quite the selection. I did from time to time require a friend or mentor to shine some light for me when it got too dark. I had early on decided I would honour myself with what I called “Barbara’s pity party” for a maximum of 15 minutes per day. I could rant, swear, stomp, scream, or cry and then that was it until the next day. The rest of the day was about moving forward, creating positive moments, planning dreaming and building. I still had clients to work with and I did not want to let them down. I did learn during that time that I did have mental toughness, I did have courage and I could do anything I put my energy into. Talk about a mind blowing freaking ah ha moment! My “pity parties” became fewer and fewer.
As we both healed and life became the new normal British Columbia still beckoned. However the emotional and financial toll on us was heavy and when my sister who is my earth angel, and yes they are real (and that too shall be another time and story) extended help by moving in with them in Manitoba it became a full circle.
So with boxes packed yet again, my husband and I took to the highway. Each in our own car, music blaring and the big city lights in our rear view mirror. The prairie town where our story began is in the windshield.
A few days before our departure I have a dream and I see Terry Fox running along the highway. He had a distinguishing hop and run and I could see it very clearly.
I felt that determination, the never give up attitude.
It was not myself who could be compared to this young man as it was my husband who had the life altering amputation.
I was the “crew”, coming along in support.
I am sure Betty Fox had dreams and aspirations for her son and family and then became the spokes person for others who experience the outcome of Cancer.
The night before we arrived in Thunder Bay the decision was made to stop at the Terry Fox memorial site.
It was a beautiful drive. The hills and turns of the highway as you drive along Lakes and rocks is a motorcyclists heaven I am sure. For me as always when I have returned to Thunder Bay I have a deep connection, a soul connection and that day was no different. The Sleeping Giant or Nanabijou as it is known in the Ojibway traditions has always held a special place in my heart.
As I approach the park my husband is waiting. Together we join hands and walk along the path up ahead to the statue. So large, so commanding, like Terry was. We both take our time walking around the statue and each of us wiping tears from our eyes. Each in our own space of what the past few years of this life transition has held. Each of us deep in thought about the young man who brought a country together, inspired others to live their dreams and lived a full life. There happened to be a young man just about to leave when I approached and ask if he would mind taking a picture and he says “sure”.
My husband and I with our arms around each other smile, knowing that “we won’t give up”, that we will “never, never give up on our dreams.”
I wanted to share this story with you as a message of not just hope, but of community, of love, of courage and of perseverance. We had so much support and love from community during our hallway experience and it continues.
Our journey is not complete as yet we have not arrived in British Columbia and we have not given up on the dream that it will happen.
What we have surrendered is holding on with tight fists we are open to allow the space for God, or Divine Source, The Universe or Dude what ever you call the amazing Creating Energy to step in and help unfold our divine soul plan.
I have learned that it is ok to seek assistance when you are in the hallway. Sometimes we need an extra pair of eyes, or stronger light to see the path and a hand that will reach out and let you know you are not alone and to be your “crew”. And even when your destination has a totally different outcome and one you never ever would have consciously chosen, you can experience joy, love and excitement in the new one.
Yes, there may be a period of transition and acceptance and that is ok. It is when you look back at the journey and you see all the surprises and gifts along the way that you would not have had, or otherwise understood the statement “for your highest good” which becomes very clear indeed.
So when I close my blogs and postings with I am happy to help I truly do mean it.
When I say I know life transitions I truly do mean it.
When I say that I have experienced help and support along the way and want to be that for you I truly do mean it.
When I say that you have courage and abilities that are waiting to be uncovered I truly do meant it.
If you know nothing else, be 100% assured that you are not here to struggle you are here to thrive and you can be the Terry and Betty Fox to someone. A way-shower or a support crew we each and every one of us ordinary people have opportunities to discover our extraordinary experiences.
Thank you for hanging out till the end!
I hope you see your life transition journey in a different light.
I am happy to help!
I cannot pack your house for moving.
I could…but seriously I am over it!
I can however help guide you on your journey through a doorway of the unknown. I love being part of the support “crew” and I have acquired a few tools from my own journey that I am happy to share!
Until next time,
Has your journey taken you to somewhere unexpected?
Have you ever been nervous to open something? The anticipation of what you might dare to find inside. And to your surprise it is something totally unexpected.
Let me share a true story.
It all begins in a small Mexican village with a family holiday consisting of my sister and I and our husbands. We rented a lovely home with horses grazing on the mountain behind the house, orange trees in the back yard, hibiscus trees climbing the wall, warm and wonderful days.
As the days unfold we get settled into the home exploring and enjoying. My sister remarks that something is wrong with the toilet in their bathroom. It suddenly is leaking and perhaps running a bit too long. This calls for more investigation.
I am in another room when I hear my sister yell my name in a way that makes me run. I find her and her husband standing in their bathroom with wild looking eyes.
“There are frogs in the tank" she says. “What?” I reply. “Frogs” she says. My brother in law nodding his head in agreement.
He reaches over and lifts the lid.
Yup there they were, three little frogs sitting on the tubing.
How in heavens name did they get there?
We pondered and discussed but could not fathom the journey they had. After a few minutes of discussion it is decided I will text our property manager named Angel, and it became very apparent during our stay that he was indeed an Angel.
I have no Spanish except for greetings, ordering a beer, and thanking someone, nothing in the realm of explaining our situation.
Thankfully Angel’s English is much more proficient. I text a brief message “ Angel can you come to the house as the toilet is leaking and we have frogs in the tank” “WHAT” is the reply “Frogs” I message back. “I will arrive soon” Angel texts back.
True to his word, Angel arrives quickly. I take Angel into the bathroom and he lifts the lid. With the same shocked wild eyes he states “ There are frogs in the tank”. “Yup” I reply.
We both smile and he reaches in a scoops one out and opens the window and out it goes.
In a moment his young assistant comes in with tools to fix the leak and Angel speaks rapid Spanish to the young man and lifts the lid. With the startled wild eyed expression that is now the norm the young man replies something in Spanish. Angel replies in English “Yes frogs.”
All three of us are crowded around the toilet smiling and shaking our heads. Angel scoops out the last two frogs which are then sent out the window. Released to the outdoors our little friends have found freedom.
This story makes me think about how we navigate life. We go about our days, eyes wide open taking everything in. We have it all under control right?
I imagine the little frogs felt they had their life under control.
Swimming along and saw something new to explore, a little tunnel. Where could it lead and what could be at the end of it? As they ventured into new territory they found themselves stuck unable to turn back.
This can be very similar to when we start a new journey, ready to transform and change when life feels frustrating or unfulfilling. We are excited to get started to then find ourselves later questioning our decision with fear. What if there is no escape? What if it is worse than where we are now?
How did we find ourselves in this situation? What journey did we take to get here? Are we afraid to open the lid to what we may find?
The trio of frogs kept moving forward. Their commitment to finding a solution to the situation was their intuition that there was an opening and a place to rest.
Our little frogs did something to change their situation by getting our attention.
The leaking toilet alerted us to their plight. They took action by sitting on the tubing out of harms way and waiting for curious humans to lift the lid. They were calm and did not fight the tank. Instead they were patient and waited in their “hallway” for a new door to open.
That door was opened by Angel who assisted them and set them free to enjoy the big outdoors again.
Sometimes our life transition journey requires a decision to seek assistance, commitment to action followed by rest to regroup and then results.
When the fear of the new decision sets in we may feel stuck, this is a perfect time to check in and lift the lid.
Is there a pattern we can see?
Do we have a belief that is being uncovered?
What little frogs are waiting patiently to alert us to the learnings in the moment?
This opportunity is where you may:
- connect to your Soul guidance for navigation to access your path
- understand your purpose from your Soul blueprint,
- recognize the obstacle
- confidently see the solution
- take the appropriate action ask for assistance if further clarity is required
- find yourself free to explore again
I am happy to help!
I can’t help you with any plumbing problems caused by frogs.
I can help you look under your lid to find the solutions
to moving easily through your tunnel.
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
Have you ever heard the expression when one door closes another opens? Sometimes though it may feel like hell in the hallway as you wait for it to happen.
While you are in that hallway do you sometimes feel like you are running through it with scissors, as it feels kind of dangerous, your heart is racing, and anxiety is at an all time high.
Then you hear your mother’s voice in your head with the dreaded warning that someone is going to get hurt running with sharp pointy objects.
So just like when you were a child you may stop what you are doing,
you run even faster trying to prove a point!
As adults we have choices in the hallway:
I have often times found myself in that limbo state.
I could be waiting to see if something I have been creating manifests. And maybe it doesn’t happen because the timing is not right or in the timeframe I feel is appropriate. (The universe may have bigger plans which may require a longer incubation time.)
That is about the same time my monkey mind chatter goes to work. “What if it never comes?” “What if I don’t deserve it?” “What if I can’t handle all this goodness I am seeking?”
Yes, and this is about the same time I start to run.
And run fast!
If I just get ahead of those darn monkeys yapping in my ear, I'll be ok. Right?
What to do? What to do? Such a dilemma.
Trying to outrun the monkeys, balance the dangerous scissors so I don't get hurt all while deciding which is the best course to run on!
Gosh! That is tiring!
I can choose to slow down and catch my breath.
What may look like inaction to others may be the action of having planted a seed of an idea and waiting for it to take root and grow.
When I am in the waiting room of the hallway is my judgement coming to the surface? Am I creating a story in my head to feed the monkeys?
The judgment is not of what others think, because I am not in their head so how could I truly possibly know what they think?
However, I do have complete and utter control over what is rambling around in my own noggin.
In the deep recesses of my wild imagination I can create amazing thoughts and ideas.
I also have the ability to conjure up the dark and scary stuff. Like the image that mom has suggested about jabbing my hand while running with scissors.
I can feed the monkeys on bits of never, can’t, won’t, unworthy, silly.
Yup, you get the drift. It is a feast of negative thoughts those chattering monkeys love!
Or, I can take a slow and sauntering walk through the hallway to observe and ask a few questions.
Hey, I could actually tell those chattering monkeys that the negative buffet is closed for their dining pleasure. If they would like a first course of positive thoughts dive in and be quiet while noshing please!
The next big questions I can ask are:
Is this really mine?
Am I caught up in someone else's story?
Am I actually feeding someone else’s chattering monkeys?
The anxiety I may be feeling is actually being brought on my the other persons drama, or situation I have become involved in.
When I get caught up in someone else’s stuff I always find myself in the hallway and wonder why the door is not opening.
Seriously, you would think it would dawn on me that I was not the one closing the door as it has nothing to do with me. But as I get drawn in, I not only am in the hallway, I start running with those darn scissors and to discover they are not even my scissors!
The choice is to put down the scissors and walk swiftly down the hallway to my doorway that is open and waiting for me.
Yes, the hallway can be an uncomfortable place to be in but also it can be wonderful.
Sometimes in the hallways there are beautiful pictures on the wall.
Landscapes that tell a story, that give you a new perspective on a familiar scene.
The hallway is a place to sit quietly and contemplate and enjoy the view.
To assess the situation and see what it is about. Is it your picture you created or did you willingly copy someone else's?
The hallway is a great place to use the tools that is in our tool box, sometimes we need reminding we have them.
As I wait for an outcome and feel my anxiety rising I choose tools that are perfect for the situation at hand.
First, I will stop feeding the monkey mind chatter and I can do that while I will meditate to gain insight to where the fear is coming from.
Second, if the situation is because I am caught up in someone else's story I make sure I extract myself from it and implement strong boundaries. I can be loving, compassionate and empathetic without picking up their scissors.
Third, I make sure my energies are strong and flowing freely and I do that with energy clearings. I may ask a friend a mentor or coach to just listen and not engage in my hallway but to remind me to put down the scissors.
As I observe and course correct I become balanced and the door opens and I find myself easily walking through. The scissors stored safely out of reach.
I am happy to help!
If you find yourself in a hallway with doors seemly shut tight,
I promise I won't sound like your mom warning you about the dangers.
I can however offer you tools and strategies on how to move through the hallway
and the best place to stow those scissors.
Until next time,
Spring cleaning suggestions are flooding in.
It that time of the year again where our inboxes are filled with blog ideas about spring and how to refresh our homes. I love reading them as I am an organizing freak so it gets me very excited. I also am a spring cleaning nut.
Nothing brings me more satisfaction than to wash walls and hunt down dust bunnies.
Here is a true story about my daughter referring to me as a spring cleaning dinosaur.
I am currently residing with my sister and it is apparent we inherited the same clean gene as she too can't wait for warmer weather to get her clean freak on. It will be fun to see how similar or different our approaches are as we approach this task.
My sister and I have the same checklist for spring cleaning that includes, window washing, wall washing, draperies cleaned, cupboards scrubbed etc.
It is in the execution of the process that will vary and is certain to cause robust conversation as to the best approach as only sisters can have!
It is fascinating to view similarities and differences when providing Soul Genesis™ information within families.
It is great insight one gets in families on how a Soul Blueprint may have aspects that are the same. Or than can be very complimentary in their differences and it explains how that may impact a relationship.
I suspect on the spring cleaning days our husbands will find opportunities for male bonding, far from the house to be clear when our eternal patterns get activated. Being 2 middle aged women that are of strong character I have an inkling that our patterns will be in full bloom.
Eternal patterns come into play when we are stressed, solving problems or resolving relationship conflicts.
Something as simple as discussing what is the best way to obtain a streak free window can activate your eternal pattern. Of course it can also represent a deeper emotion such as an older sibling taking advice from a younger sibling. Or a younger sibling releasing the need to being heard in the family. Hmmmmmm, now that is an interesting reflection?
Do you know and understand your eternal pattern?
How does that impact your relationships?
I use my eternal pattern of organization as a barometer to measure how deep I am into my stress. How easily I am solving my problems, and am I engaging with others in a calm and respectful manner? When I am aware there is an imbalance in any area I can readjust and realign my energies. This gives a better flow of grace and ease to my life especially when sharing time with others.
This spring I look forward to warm weather and enjoying clean surroundings.
I especially will enjoy bonding with my sister, doing what we both love... spring cleaning, while understanding each other in a deep soulful way!
If you would like to refresh your understanding of your eternal pattern
or perhaps learn about it for the first time -
Until next time,
Your Guide Through Life Transitions
New Years Resolutions… you either embrace them or if you are like me you just plain dislike them.
It is not like I don’t like change.
Well, maybe I am not the biggest fan and that might be why these past 4 years have been a constant source of change. Just the universe’s way of having a chuckle saying "that which you resist will persist."
In the past, I make a resolution to find that within a short period of time I have abandoned it with glee!
Over the past several years I made a conscious decision I would not longer embrace resolutions.
I do find that I easily embrace (one of two)
a) Building on from the previous year
b) Starting a fresh idea.
You might be saying that sounds like a resolution. Webster’s dictionary definition of resolution as “a firm decision to do or not to do something”. And that is where I get a little annoyed in the resolution wording “firm decision".
I like to have flexibility.
I enjoy being able to start something and when I see that it no longer works for me to easily let it go. Or if I love it I can visualize adding to it, and having the freedom to do so.
This takes me to my dreams, plans and a vision for a new year.
We all have them. Some of us make rituals around them, write letters and burn them, write mantras or affirmations. We meditate and journal.
I love all of this as it helps to get my creative juices going. It is when I feel the creativity getting stuck that I start to investigate why? What needs to be calibrated to help me get on track?
The past week was a not only a new year beginning it was also a full moon, a super moon. This meant doing a little ritual I enjoy.
At specific moon times I like to draw oracle cards to see what is energetically in store for the upcoming month.
I also like to clear any misalignments in my energy grid to the universal energies.
We all are familiar with road signs. They protect us from harm. They guide us to new locations. They help us find our way.
Recently as I drove 2108 Km I had many opportunity to observe road signs. There were the typical ones that help me know how far I had to the next gas station…..which by the way in Northern Ontario they are few and far between. There were signs warning of the possibility of Moose crossing the roads. I was disappointed I did not see one but glad I did not “run” into one.
The signs that got my attention were reoccurring patterns of animals. It started out with the Ravens. Ravens are found on the side of the highway doing as nature intended cleaning up the animals who did not survive the crossing of the road. It was the Raven in the sky that made me take note. As I travelled along a part of the highway that would be generally steep and winding a single Raven would fly towards my car circle around and escort me down the hill. The further I travelled the more I would see a lone Raven escorting me. I could sense the message from the Raven of “come along with me I will guide the way.” I needed to look up the meaning of the raven and this is what I discovered.
“Times are difficult globally,” explains Pema Chödrön. “Awakening is no longer a luxury or an ideal. It’s becoming critical.”
Wow, that hit home today. We are in chaos and unsettling times. Do you feel that way too? For several months now my clients are reflecting that their life is in chaos, and that includes me. I am not immune from this energy. My life takes turns being easy and flowing to riding white rapids that want to make me sick.
The current state of world events has everyone wondering what has happened to our planet. Has everyone gone mad? When it becomes crucial for change the precursor is immense discomfort. After all why change if everything feels comfortable? Of course we wonder, can't we create change with grace and ease? Yes, I do believe we can although there are some circumstances that require a huge shake up and I do believe this is one of them.
We are being called to awaken - to wake up. Do we even know we are asleep? What does it mean to awaken?